Can a single phrase really change your relationship with your child?

YES!

Do you wish you had a way to stop the cycle of yelling?
Are you feeling overwhelmed and out of ideas?
Do you want a simple, yet powerful tool to help you gain control and feel more at peace?

parent coach amy behrens with workshop participants

Can you relate to any of these scenarios?

You serve dinner and within minutes, your kids are getting up from the table and squabbling with each other. You try to remain calm, but finally belt out, “Can’t anyone sit still and just eat their dinner? Stop fighting right now!!!”
You leave a meeting early to pick up your 12 year old from a club meeting. When he gets in the car, you eagerly ask about his day, hoping to connect, but he replies with irritation, “Fine. I don’t feel like talking.” You’re annoyed and disappointed, so you snap, “Well you’re a real treat. I’m so glad I picked you up.” Then you instantly regret your sarcasm as he pulls further further away from you.
Your older child just started learning to play the recorder and is marching around the kitchen blaring “Hot Cross Buns” while you finish packing lunches and your baby is pulling on your leg and crying. You try counting to 10 and then can’t stand it any more and yell, “Stop playing that instrument! Can’t you see I can’t listen right now?!”

While all of these reactions are perfectly understandable, none of them leads to cooperation and improved behavior. Instead, our angry responses make our kids get more mad, feel hurt, and focus on our rude behavior instead of what they need.

I’ve been there, and so have many of my parent coaching clients. So, how do we gain the awareness and ability to pause before we open our mouths?

PARENTING MANTRAS

Personal Parenting Mantras – phrases that both remind you to be present and guide your actions – are a powerful tool to add to your parenting toolbox. I’ve been developing my own and helping my clients develop theirs for years.. Now it’s your turn.

Imagine if 90 minutes of being in a shared space with other parents saved you hours and hours of regret, apologies, and beating yourself up? And instead, you felt understood, supported, and inspired?

YES, PLEASE

The Find-Your-Own-Mantra Workshop will guide you to discover simple phrases to transform your interactions with your child.

I love listening to the thoughts, struggles, joys, successes of others in your workshops. I often find myself thinking of what people have said long after I have left the group. I always grow from the experience, and feel very full and enriched by it. Because of the uniqueness of each workshop, there are times when it feels magical. Thank you for a wonderful, enriching group that allows me a connection and deepening to myself and to others who I would not necessarily know otherwise.

— Erika, Mom of three, Newton, MA

Why should I sign up for this workshop?

Open up your imagination and generate ideas through guided reflection.
Learn a tool you can use again and again.
Work through tough situations to gain clarity and wisdom.
Experience new mindsets that will improve your life.
Know you are not alone in your parenting struggles.
Share ideas you can test out with your own children.

Tools and Takeaways:

A Guided Reflection to give you insights that bring clarity
The Create-Your-Own-Mantra Tool to transform unpleasant patterns
Shared wisdom of a group of likeminded parents
Real-time experiences with how mantras work
Relief and peace of mind that your parenting experiences improve from here

SIGN ME UP!

Join us on Zoom on a Friday in December:

Friday, Dec. 16th
11am-12:30pm EST.

Make the $47 investment
in your family right here.

Spots are limited so save your seat early.
Couples may join under one ticket.

I look forward to helping you discover
your own personal parenting mantras.
See you in December!

SAVE MY SEAT!

Want to get started thinking about your mantras?
Click here to read my recent blog post.

Amy’s workshops inspire us to think about our vision of our best selves. Amy guides us to be present. She is a wonderful, thoughtful listener and facilitator who shows caring and compassion for all of her attendees. I have learned and grown so much with Amy as a role model, coach and educator. Thanks for a great workshop, Amy!”

— Karen Ghiron, Newton, MA, Mom of three

MEET YOUR HOST

Amy Behrens, M.Ed. is a certified parent coach and educator who helps parents get clear on their values, connect deeply with their children, and feel confident as they navigate the challenges of parenting. Learn more here.

You can read her “Strategies for Soulful Parents” blog and sign up for her monthly newsletter on her website.

Amy has been featured in The Wall Street Journal and on websites including the Parent Coaching Institute and Families Organizing for Racial Justice. The latter is a city-wide initiative she helped found in Newton, Massachusetts, where she lives with her husband and three children.

So many of the strategies we are working on also help each of us personally…

Before we started parent coaching with Amy, we were feeling a bit confused and helpless. After working together for a few months, we feel armed with knowledge, tools, and strategies that we didn’t have before. That may sound simple but it’s huge. We feel greater confidence as parents now that we can better understand our children’s experiences in both big and little ways and have different tools to help them when they need it. So many of the strategies we are working on also help each of us personally and our family in general. We can genuinely say that we have gotten exactly what we hoped to get out of our sessions. Best of all, Amy is compassionate, fun, and easy to talk to, and she helps us without any judgment.

Robyn and Mike D., Reading, MA, parents of a 6 year old boy and 3 year old daughter

Practical parenting tools and larger vision…

When I started out working with Amy, I was overwhelmed by my (10 year old) son’s behavior and struggling to balance his needs and wants with my own. Her support has been invaluable, both in providing me with practical parenting tools and in guiding me to be able to see the larger vision of what I most value and want – to support my son in the long run. To use the forest/tree metaphor: when I started working with Amy I felt like parenting was a process of continually running into trees. Working with her has allowed me to see each of those trees as a possibility for growth and connection with my kid, and the larger forest is now my vision of our family values and goals.

Nina M., Amherst MA, Mom of a 10 year old boy

I have learned several techniques to help my mind when it starts to spin…

I have learned several techniques to help my mind control itself when it starts to spin. I find everyday it’s become less and less chaotic since the house has become calm. Today, I am finding the kids are showing their faces around us more often and sitting in the same rooms as us. We still have work to do in a few areas, but the atmosphere in our home has been far more pleasant and without an immediate attitude when the kids are asked to do something to help.

Doreen D., Marshfield, MA, parent of two teens

She helped us understand how ADHD and DCD affect our child’s mind and body…

We started working with Amy after a diagnosis of ADHD and Developmental Coordination Disorder (DCD) for our oldest child left us feeling completely overwhelmed. Amy is relatable and knowledgeable. Her approach is multi-faceted; she helped us understand exactly how these disorders affect our child’s mind and body, while also encouraging us to explore our own emotions, reactions and communication styles with each other and with our child. She provided us not only with specific tools and strategies to better interact with our child, but useful context to explain certain traits or behaviors. We would definitely recommend Amy to any parent struggling to understand their child and their own parenting approach with more clarity and intention.

Emma C. and Dan B., Boston MA, parents of two children ages 2 and 5

I’ve shifted from hovercraft, drone-strike parenting to gardener…It feels like I’m taking the most important graduate-level class of my life!

In the beginning, I felt like I was in crisis-mode. I was frequently anxious which affected my mood and ability to handle sensitive teen emotions. And sometimes I even felt like I caused more angst than was initially there. Now, I feel more capable, less impatient, more empathic, less anxious, more forgiving. I really appreciate the big mind-shifts and acronyms to help me remember and use them. It feels like I’m taking the most important graduate-level class of my life!

Emily S., Mom of two boys ages 10 and 13 in Lexington, MA

Choosing to work with Amy is one of the best decisions I’ve made!

Amy’s parent coaching has been transformative for me as a mother and as an individual. Her wealth of creative ideas has not only addressed parenting challenges but has also positively influenced my personal growth. Amy’s genuine care extends beyond parenting; she values you as a whole person. The strategies I’ve implemented have brought ease and improved communication within my family life. Choosing to work with Amy is one of the best decisions I’ve made!

Jamie B., Mom of a 6 year old boy in Philadelphia, PA

Amy is a wizard!

Amy is a wizard! Her calm, straightforward approach quietly boosts your confidence while she gives you the tools to implement desired changes. Her process and emphasis on ownership through the playbook and notes are key to success, and she’s tuned into this process. Whatever your struggle, Amy is the person you can count on for support.

Jennifer R., Mom of two Seattle, WA

Amy helped us resolve the most painful parts of the day…

My friend referred me to Amy when I was feeling frustrated and overwhelmed with some negative dynamics going on in our home. After a few months of working together, I feel like my family is lighter and happier together. I have a toolkit of mindsets and strategies to go back to when I need support. Amy helped us resolve the most painful parts of the day so that now we can focus on the deeper work of getting along and supporting each other as a family.

Lara Frankovich, mother of 3 boys ages 8, 13, and 15, Colorado

I feel much better equipped to navigate many different situations…

Amy’s coaching has been critical in my healing journey. She provided a constructive and safe environment where I felt comfortable sharing details of my experiences, and received much needed support in processing and recognizing issues of past and present. I feel much better equipped to navigate many different situations, pulling from the toolkit of techniques she has helped me build. I continue to see improvements in how I handle scenarios and relationships as a result of our work together.

Enabling us to access our best selves even at the hardest times…

Amy, thank you so much for your support in allowing us to reach for the family life we hope to create, and enabling us to access our best selves, even at the hardest times! I feel a buoyancy this afternoon after our call that gives me hope heading into the holiday week!

Rosy, Robert, Carla and Marian

More harmony together as a family…

Amy helped us become more self aware and “cool our temperature” when kids get upset. We learned the importance of being able to step back and address issues during calm times and not in the heat of the moment. We feel a new sense of agency and are enjoying deeper conversations, healthier activities, and more harmony together as a family.

Sarah and Noah, Pembroke, Bermuda, Parents of 9 and 11 year old children

An extraordinary process…

It was an extraordinary process to not just learn about my daughter’s style and temperament, or her values and strengths, but to also see how this was an opportunity for me to grow. I tell everyone I can about the impact of this experience on my person, my relationship with my daughter, and on our family.

Marta B, Northampton, MA

It felt magical…

Each week we worked on a new struggle and every time there was a positive result. It honestly felt magical seeing these struggles we dreamed of changing come to life. Amy truly feels like a lifeline. Working with her is one of the best investments we have made for our family.

Doug and Ashley, Roslindale, MA

Mindset changes, resets, concrete examples…

Amy has helped me with mindset changes, resets, concrete examples, and ideas for things to do in the moment. I am more in-tune with my daughters developmentally. Parent Coaching has been an amazing resource that has helped me to enjoy my children and family so much more.

Megan, Mom of 3 and 7 year old daughters in Columbus, OH

Reduced the feelings that I’m performing badly as a parent…

Amy helped me see how the kids really are expanding my world view – by the way they are and how they make their way through the world. I have reduced the feelings that I’m performing badly as a parent and increased harmony in the house by changing my reactions and mindset so that we all feel better.

Michelle Farrington, Mom of two teens in Arlington, MA

We know we will come back to Amy for help and guidance…

Navigating life with a 3 year old was challenging enough but with a newborn on the way we knew we weren’t prepared. Our daughter was already very mommy dependent and we were expecting that to get worse. And it did. But Amy helped us through it by adjusting our thoughts and giving us techniques and tools to use during this difficult stage. We know we will come back to Amy for help and guidance when we hit the next rough patch.

Brett and Heidi, parents of a new baby and 3 year old, Newton MA

She provided personalized techniques…

My teenage son could not return to school during the Pandemic due to his social anxiety. After a couple of psychologists who specialize in anxiety failed to help him, I decided to learn some skills myself to help him recover by reaching out to Amy. I have been very impressed by Amy’s exceptional empathy, kindness, and professional skills. She provided ample great ideas and personalized techniques that helped me bond with my son and improve his self-confidence. As a result, he was able to attend several in-person summer camps and is adjusting to a new high school now! I hope other parents with anxious kids can benefit from Amy’s great help too.

Father of a teenager boy with social anxiety, Newton, MA

Definitely worth every penny to help yourself and your family.

Amy provides insight, support, and compassion to parents struggling to connect, listen, laugh, and understand their children. Through patience and humor, Amy finds a way to navigate the intensity of parenting and partnership. Amy shows you patterns in your behavior, insight into your child, and how to connect with your spouse. If you want to feel more calm, more connected to your kids and spouse, and more centered within yourself, Amy is the coach for you. Her accessibility, gentle guidance, and support are wrapped in levity, understanding, and care. Definitely worth every penny to help yourself and your family.

Jen Carter, M.D., Stratham, NH. Mom of three children ages 8, 10 and 12

Coaching with Amy has been one of the best investments we’ve made.

We sought out parent coaching because we felt like we lost our patience too easily as parents and then often felt judgmental of ourselves. We both knew that there was a way to apply our mindfulness practices to parenting, but needed guidance. Amy helped us learn to collaborate with our child more often to get his input on difficult situations, like morning routines, which helps him invest in the solutions. We also have more productive conversations with him when we process difficulties because we have a framework. We feel closer as a family.

Amy is non-judgmental and easy-going, which makes being vulnerable enough to make real changes easier. Her humor, practical approach and excellent questions made all the difference. Coaching with Amy has been one of the best investments we’ve made.

Amy and Pete, Mansfield, MA

Parent coaching with Amy has transformed our family.

Parent coaching with Amy has transformed our family. When we started, we were exhausted and exasperated with parenting and our kids. We felt as though we’d gone through our “toolbox” and were out of ideas on how to have cooperative, yet happy kids and family. By the end of the day we often felt bad/sad about our own actions that day.

Parent coaching has enabled us to take a step back to learn about each of our kids and their emotional, physical and developmental needs. And because we recognize that each is unique, and often changing, our parenting needs to be flexible and less rigid than we’d set up. We can have more fun, enjoyment and laughter AND feel successful at the end of the day. Remembering to find the joy and playfulness makes for happy kids and parents!

We’ve worked through countless real, concrete solutions to our family’s everyday challenges. We’re building a toolbox. We’re learning how to use it in real time and having more fun, too.

Melissa and Ernie, parents of 5 year old twin boys and a 2 year old girl in Newton, MA

I am able to be the parent I wanted to be.

I have been talking about this experience of parent coaching with every parent I talk to. I’ve shared the value of the resources and time reflecting and processing. At the beginning I felt overwhelmed, hopeless, and like a complete failure. Now I feel confident and recharged. I am able to be the parent I wanted to be. Our weekly conversations have been most helpful. You are so positive, supportive, and nonjudgmental, which is what we all need when talking about our insecurities with parenting.

Mo Reed-McNally, mom of 5 and 7 year old boys in Amherst, MA

I’m grateful I’ve had you as a touch point and lifeline.

Your parenting, relationship, and individual coaching has been invaluable to me through this year which has been challenging in so many ways. I’m grateful I’ve had you as a touch point and lifeline. Your parenting insights and ideas made me step back and examine the type of relationship and family I want to create –and recognize that our family and relationship doesn’t have to be the one that just happens, but that I can be more in control and a creator of both. You have been a true treasure and ray of light for me during a difficult year.

Sara, mom of 7 year old girl and twin 5 year old boys in Marin County, CA

Coaching strengthened our relationship with our older daughter and each other.

The most important impact of parent coaching for us is that now we’re on the same page as parents in terms of how we handle our daughter’s behavior. Before that, our strategies were reactive or inconsistent. Through our weekly coaching sessions, we gained clarity on what was happening and learned how to handle meltdowns effectively. We learned to pay attention to WHY our daughter was behaving negatively, which enabled us to get much better at meeting her needs. Now it’s hard to remember the last time there was a hitting or yelling episode! We are both on the same page and can tap in for each other when one of us needs a break. Parent coaching with Amy was a really worthwhile investment that has strengthened our relationship with our older daughter and each other. We are truly grateful to Amy for her guidance through a big transition for our family.

Andy and Elizabeth, parents of girls ages 4 and 7 months, Roslindale, MA

Amy helped us bring back a sense of delight of being with our son.

Amy helped us navigate through a really turbulent time and brought back a sense of delight of being with our son. He is now less whiny, better at coping with emotions, and more self-directed and we are calmer and more confident in our approach to parenting, which makes all of us feel happier to be together. What makes Amy truly stand out is her hands-on, judgement-free approach—over six sessions, she equipped us with the tools and language to approach parenting challenges and help our son build resilience and navigate his emotions. We learned to emphasize the positive and to show our son the process of our thinking through things. We now encourage him to participate in problem solving and he comes up with great ideas. Seeing things from our son’s perspective gave us new insight into his needs. We are all enjoying less conflict and more fun around the house!

Jennifer Chen and Simon Montlake, Cambridge, MA

I am a much happier, stronger person than I was when we started

I am incredibly grateful that I had Amy as a coach during a time of intense personal change and growth. She helped me to reflect on and understand difficult losses, she helped me to be a better parent to my teenaged children through big transitions, and she helped me make changes in my life that have allowed me to grow and to thrive. I am a much happier, stronger person than I was when I started coaching 12 weeks ago–Amy has made such a difference in my life.

Amy, mother of 2 teens in Newton, MA

I felt supported, heard, and understood every step of the way.

Through the whole coaching process, Amy was the very definition of committed. She was completely focused and engaged, took copious notes, asked highly relevant questions, engaged in dialogue for the sake of discovery and clarification, and took the time to compose thoughtful emails. I felt supported, heard, and understood every step of the way.

Father in Brookline, MA

We are having more fun with our kids now.

We would definitely recommend parent coaching with Amy. She helped us build our parenting muscles, work better as a team and build our confidence to parent well and in line with our values. We are having more fun with our kids now and feel like we have some more structure and control over what happens at home.

Parents of two young children in West Roxbury, MA

Amy helps me to focus on what is most important in my life.

Amy reminds me to pay attention to and move toward what lights me up and what makes me feel most alive. This helps me to focus on what is most important in my life.

Mother dealing with separation and job transition in Newton, MA

There is now a wonderful friendship and love between me and my son…

It has been two years since I did parenting coaching sessions with Amy and I still use ideas and techniques I learned during that time. I am so happy that there is now a wonderful friendship and love between me and my son which I had not thought would be possible when I started the coaching. He now reads more books and makes better choices. I am so grateful to Amy for those conversations, and her support and wisdom that changed my approach to parenting and brought light into our family life.

Olga, Newton parent of 7 & 3 years old

My stress level has decreased to a more manageable level.

Working one on one with Amy has been invaluable to our family. With her help, I have become more firm, clear, and confident in my parenting. Before I worked with Amy, my stress level about parenting was on the high end. As a result of working with Amy, my stress level has decreased to a more manageable level. My family routines have greatly improved and I’ve learned to make a more concerted effort in nurturing all of the relationships in our family. I highly recommend Amy Behrens as a parent coach.

Maura, mother of boys ages 6 and 2 in Roslindale, MA

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Can a single phrase really change your relationship with your child? YES!