Welcome to my page of Recommended Resources for Parents!
Many parents from my parent coaching practice and workshops have asked for recommendations to further their own personal growth as well as their parenting knowledge. Therefore, I have put together this list of my favorite books to share with you. Happy reading!
I welcome your resource recommendations, too, as I love to continually expand my own knowledge! Please email me your suggestions and I will read them and consider adding them to this list.
Parenting books I recommend:
Wonderful books on brain-based/mindful parenting strategies:
I love the work of Dr. Laura Markham and highly recommend her books and her website, Aha Parenting, especially if you have young children.
Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting by Dr. Laura Markham (Excellent book on how fostering emotional connection with your young child will create lasting, effective change.)
Peaceful Parent, Happy Siblings: How to Stop the Fighting and Raise Friends for Life by Dr. Laura Markham (Wonderful book on how to use self-regulation, connection and coaching to help children get along with more empathy and cooperation – helpful for both your own children and children at playdates.)
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson, PhD are master pioneers of brain-based, mindful, and loving approaches to self-regulation and parenting. The following books are some of my favorite books on parenting. They inspire my work with clients and with my own family. I have them in order of newest to oldest. They’re all worth reading, but I recommend starting with their newest book The Power of Showing Up first as well as their foundational The Whole Brain Child book. You can also look online to see and listen to videos of both authors talking about their books and approaches if that fits your learning style better.
The Power of Showing Up: How Parental Presence Shapes Who Our Kids Become and How Their Brains Get Wired by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.
The Yes Brain Child: How to Help Your Child Be More Resilient, Independent and Creative by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.
No-Drama Discipline: The Whole-Brain Way to Calm the Chaos and Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Dr. Daniel J. Siegel
The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind by Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, Ph.D.
Dr. Shefali Tsabary inspired my Mindful Parenting Series that I have taught for parents at yoga studios, religious communities, and preschools. She has illuminated what “conscious parenting” really means – truly knowing yourself and your child so that you can parent in a much more conscious and liberating way.
The Parenting Map: Step-by-Step Solutions to Consciously Create the Ultimate Parent-Child Relationship by Shefali Tsabary, PhD (This book came out Feb. 28th 2023 – so I’m currently reading it.)
The Awakened Family: A Revolution in Parenting by Shefali Tsabary, PhD (This book shares a beautiful way to learn compassion for yourself and your child as you parent.)
The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary, PhD (This is an excellent book that shows you how we as parents learn alongside our children in a mutual way.)
Two new brain-body based parenting books I am currently reading and loving:
Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be by Dr. Becky Kennedy (My own parenting philosophy is very aligned with hers. She also has an excellent podcast and a membership program to access her many parenting courses, which several of my parent coaching clients had enjoyed.)
Brain-Body Parenting: How to Stop Managing Behavior and Start Raising Joyful, Resilient Kids by Mona Delahooke, PhD (I have listened to several talks by Mona Delahooke and love her approach that she is sharing in this 5-star rated book.)
More books on mindful/conscious parenting:
Raising Good Humans: A Mindful Guide to Breaking the Cycle of Reactive Parenting and Raising Kind, Confident Kids by Hunter Clarke Fields (She also has an excellent podcast and website.)
Everyday Blessings: The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting by Myla and Jon Kabat-Zinn
How to Be a Parent: The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and Your Children Will be Glad That You Did) by Philippa Perry
Excellent books full of mindful exercises and activities that you can use with your children:
The Power of Your Child’s Imagination: How to Transform Stress and Anxiety into Joy and Success by Charlotte Reznick, PhD (This book is full of beautiful ways you can help your children use their imagination when they are facing all sorts of worries and fears. My clients who have tried some of the ideas have found them to be “magical.”)
Growing Up Mindful: Essential Practices to Help Children, Teens, and Families Find Balance, Calm, and Resilience by Christopher Willard, PsyD (This book is full of easy-to-apply practices you can use for yourself and with your kids and teens. I taught some of these techniques in my Mindful Parenting Series and parents found them to be very useful.)
The Mindful Child: How to Help Your Kid Manage Stress and Become Happier, Kinder, and More Compassionate by Susan Kaiser Greenland
Mindful Games: sharing mindfulness and meditation with children, teens, and families by Susan Kaiser Greenland
Nurturing Spirituality in Children: Simple Hands-On Activities by Peggy Jenkins – great 10 min activities for explaining abstract concepts in fun and interesting ways
A Handful of Quiet: Happiness in Four Pebbles by Thich Nhat Hanh
Stay Cool and In Control with the Keep-Calm Guru by Lauren Brukner – for parent and child
How to Be a Superhero Called Self-Control by Lauren Brukner – for parent and child
Books that help you “let go” and trust your child more to learn through experience:
Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans by Michaeleen Doucleff (This book is full of stories based on the author’s experience visiting, learning and practicing the wisdom of the Maya, Inuit, and Hadzabe cultures with her 3 year old daughter. She learns to let go and trust her daughter’s processes more with skill and love. Her chapter summaries of key ideas are helpful as references as you test ideas out.)
Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish have written two of my all-time favorite books that show you in both cartoons and through stories of parents how to really listen to your children and help them listen to each other. I read these books when my own children were younger and found their guidance to be invaluable. I continue to suggest them for my clients, even though they were written decades ago. Their wise advice is timeless.
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen So Kids Will Talk by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live, Too by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish
Vicki Hoefle is a master of teaching parents how to step back so their kids can step forward. I attended a workshop with her years ago and love her straight-talking, experienced approach that helps us stop talking and doing so much for our kids. Her image of duct-taping one’s mouth shut helped me transform my relationship with my first child, who has taught me that my #1 job as a parent is to listen compassionately, offer a few pieces of key information, and then let her learn through her experiences what works best for her.
Duct Tape Parenting by Vicki Hoefle
The Straight Talk on Parenting: A No-Nonsense Approach on How to Grow a Grown-Up by Vicki Hoefle
The following books are all excellent for learning how to be a compassionate supporter of your children as they learn the skills and confidence they need to be thoughtful, competent, enjoyable adults. You will find that your relationship with your children dramatically improves as you learn to let go more and let them grow into themselves. If you get stuck in your own fears and patterns, schedule a Complimentary Clarity Call with me and I’ll help you process those feelings so that you feel more free and courageous along the way.
Confident Parents, Remarkable Children by Bonnie Harris
The Gift of Failure by Jessica Lahey
The Blessings of a Skinned Knee by Wendy Mogel
The Blessings of a B-Minus by Wendy Mogel
Secrets of Happy Families by Bruce Feiler
How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julie Lythcott-Haims
The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by William Stixrud and Ned Johnson
Books to help model and teach empathy and social-emotional skills:
Unselfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All-About Me World by Michele Borba
Parenting from Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection and Choice – a presentation of Nonviolent Communication ideas and their use by Inbal Kashtan
Pride and Joy: A Guide to Understanding Your Child’s Emotions and Solving Family Problems by Kenneth Barish
Permission to Feel: The Power of Emotional Intelligence to Achieve Well-Being and Success by Marc Brackett
Books on parenting teens:
Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood by Lisa Damour (Excellent book that is worth reading multiple times as you parent girls through their teenage years.)
Staying Connected to Your Teenager, Revised Edition: How to Keep Them Talking to You and How to Hear What They’re Really Saying by Michael Riera, PhD
Brainstorm: The Power and Purpose of the Teenage Brain by Daniel J. Siegel
Dial Down the Drama: Reducing Conflict and Reconnecting with Your Teenage Daughter – A Guide for Mothers Everywhere by Colleen O’Grady
How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julie Lythcott-Haims
A Survival Guide to Parenting Teens: Talking to Your Kids About Sexting, Drinking, Drugs, and Other Things that Freak You Out by Joani Geltman
Books on parenting twenty-somethings:
The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now by Meg Jay
Your Turn: How to Be an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims
Books on helping your child (and yourself) with ADHD:
ADHD 2.0: New Science and Essential Strategies for Thriving with Distraction–from Childhood through Adulthood by Edward M. Hallowell, M.D. and John Ratey, M.D. (This is an excellent and very readable book that will help you learn how to harness the strength and soften the challenges of living with ADHD.)
What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life by Sharon Saline, M.D. (This is an excellent book full of the voices and experiences of kids and teens with ADHD – filled with useful and easy-to-remember strategies.)
Additional Recommended books from the trusted www.additudemag.com website – Many of these look excellent, but I haven’t read them yet so see what speaks to you.
Books on parenting in a digital age:
Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World by Devorah Heitner
Indistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life by Nir Eyal
The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in a Digital Age by Catherine Steiner-Adair
Parenting Well in a Media Age by Gloria DeGaetano
Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age by Sherry Turkle
Reset Your Child’s Brain: A Four-Week Plan to End Meltdowns, Raise Grades and Boost Social Skills by Reversing the Effects of Electronic Screen-Time by Victoria L. Dunckley, M.D.
It’s Complicated: The Social Lives of Networked Teens by Danah Boyd
You are Not a Gadget by Jaron Lanier
Books to help parents understand developmental stages of their children:
Series for children ages 1-14 years old: Example –Your One-Year Old: The Fun-Loving, Fussy 12-to-24-Month-Old by Louise Bates Ames and Frances L. Ilg (Note: This series includes a book that focuses on each year of life for children ages 1-14, and while they are dated (from the 1980s), they are full of knowledge, humor, and guidance that remains helpful for parents as their children change over time. Plus, they’re inexpensive since you can buy them used!)
Books to help parents reflect on their own lives:
The Four Tendencies: The Indispensable Personality Profiles That Reveal How to Make Your Life Better (and Other People’s Lives Better, Too) by Gretchen Rubin
Living Beautifully: with Uncertainty and Change by Pema Chodron
Resilient: How to Grow an Unshakable Core of Calm, Strength, and Happiness by Rick Hanson
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck
The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm
Change the World: How Ordinary People Can Achieve Extraordinary Results by Robert E. Quinn
Take Time for Your Life by Cheryl Richardson
The Adult Years: Mastering the Art of Self-Renewal by Frederic M. Hudson
Your Brain at Work: Strategies for Overcoming Distraction, Regaining Focus, and Working Smarter All Day Long by David Rock
Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones by James Clear
Barking Up the Wrong Tree: The Surprising Science Behind Why Everything You Know About Success Is (Mostly) Wrong by Eric Barker
Presence: Bringing Your Boldest Self to Your Biggest Challenges by Amy Cuddy (This book is not specifically on parenting but has excellent ideas for understanding connections between physical postures, thought and behavior that can be helpful for parents, teens and children.)
Books on talking about racism and social justice with children:
Please see the Families Organizing for Racial Justice website I help maintain. Click on the Resources section for suggestions of websites, videos, books, and more.
So You Want to Talk about Race by Ijeoma Uluo is an excellent book for adults to educate themselves and others, which is an essential step if you want to talk with your children about race and racism.
Raising White Kids: Bringing Up Children in a Racially Unjust America by Jennifer Harvey is a helpful book for parents of white children who want to name the privilege of white hierarchy and raise children who can stand up against racism.
Why are all the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria and Other Conversations about Race by Beverly Daniel Tatum is an excellent book for any parent seeking to understand the dynamics of race in America. Tatum guides readers in how to talk directly about racial and ethnic identities in order to bring about greater psychological health and help bridge the divisions in American society.
Books and Resources on Nonviolent Communication:
Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication by Oren Jay Sofer – a wonderful book that will improve all of the relationships in your life by a truly excellent teacher. Check out his meditations online as well.
The Center for Nonviolent Communication , PuddleDancer Press Resources on Nonviolent Communication – websites where you can download helpful sheets to support your practice
Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life, 3rd Ed. by Marshall B. Rosenburg, PhD – excellent explanation and overview of the process, filled with stories to illustrate how NVC works
Parenting from Your Heart: Sharing the Gifts of Compassion, Connection and Choice – a presentation of Nonviolent Communication ideas and their use with children by Inbal Kashtan
Speaking Peace: Connecting with Others through Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenburg PhD – a great Audio CD collection that explores personal and professional applications